Vae -- kindness

[sythyry]

And what is the kindest incident you have, in which you harmed someone and then made for them a good and strong apology?

Comments

[greenreaper.livejournal.com]

If I harm someone that bad, it is usually because I meant it! I do not apologize for that, it would be a lie.

[oh6.livejournal.com]

It's been a long time, but I suppose that would be an incidident where a friend complained about an embarrassing lapse of manners while visiting their place. It's memorable because they were definitely annoyed, and definitely accepted my apology.

Thoughts

[ysabetwordsmith.livejournal.com]

When I upset my partner, and agree that it's my fault, I often wash a sink of dishes -- which is not customarily my job, as I detest doing it.

[elorie.livejournal.com]

Not the kindest, but most recent...I got angry at a friend about something based on my misinterpretation of what she said. I told her I was sorry I did that and agreed that I should have asked what she meant first.

[ladyperegrine.livejournal.com]

My experience is that usually the harms are mutual inadvertent ones, and the parties involved apologize and recommit to acting out of love and caring in the future.

[kris-schnee.livejournal.com]

Hmm, I'm reminded instead of a time I did something instinctive but badly rude and now have no chance to apologize; a case where I apologized for hurting a friend's feelings but hurt them again because she immediately asked if I would accept the beliefs I'd criticized; and a time when I politely refrained from airing the full details of a conversation where someone had been astonishingly rude, only to be insulted further for not being "brave enough" to tell the world. Is it strange that no good memories come to mind from your question?

[terrycloth.livejournal.com]

Usually if I harm someone I'll make excuses instead of apologizing. I usually have a reason for doing what I did ('I didn't see the red light until it was too late because it was hidden behind a tree and I was going 15 mph over the speed-limit down a hill in the rain, so I honked to tell everyone to get out of the way because I wasn't going to be able to stop in time and everyone ELSE maanged to!')

Except for little things where it really doesn't matter of course.

[rowyn]

Usually if I harm someone I'll make excuses instead of apologizing.

Most people do that. Or apologize without actually meaning it. But *most* of us have the decency to be too hypocritical too admit that we do it and instead focus on the handful of times we managed to apologize properly. What's wrong with you, anyway? >:)

[archadia.livejournal.com]

I am very sadly quick to apologize, not as quick to forgive, and most slow at forgetting.
Sometimes people confuse this with my not forgiving, for which I normally feel the need to apologize for.
My best (or maybe my favorite?) apologies usually involve 'favors' of the type I will be polite enough not to tell you here, or else, the making of delicious food in hopes the taste will help my someone forget my mistake-I-cannot-fix.

[sythyry.livejournal.com]

The many of my non-prime friends have similar dauntless spirit to you.

[sythyry.livejournal.com]

The sweet friend is it, who accepts an apology first-made!

Re: Thoughts

[sythyry.livejournal.com]

The very clear and concrete apology is this!

[sythyry.livejournal.com]

The slithery subtle things are words, and so apt to betray one from time to time.

[sythyry.livejournal.com]

The kindness is the essential butter of life with people!

[sythyry.livejournal.com]

The question I asked was a cruel one, to thus stir the mind's chamberpot. The humbly do I ask your forgiveness for the asking of my question.

[sythyry.livejournal.com]

The two apology-gifts here are good ones; they bring actual joy.

[sythyry.livejournal.com]

The single excuse have I, and it wears on primes.

[sythyry.livejournal.com]

The usually am the involuntary hypocrite.

[rowyn]

Being hypocritical is what decent folks usually are. It's not that bad.

[terrycloth.livejournal.com]

Right! So you need to make up others. Even if they know it's really the same thing every time, it might be more interesting for them.