I suspect Thenel is more attracted to wielders of magical power than he is to Rassimel(and, as a duelist, I imagine Rehit isn't totally inept in that regard, even if swordplay might be his focus?). He does seem to have a preference for fur, but that might have just been because he first met you when you were in an Orren shape.
At any rate... I'm sure you're sick of hearing it from us by now, but, really, for some people sexuality isn't so polarized. Or is polarized along different axes than most expect.
Beyond that - yes, follow Phaniet's advice; find the truth to their relationship.
It may be a relationship of expedience - especially if, perhaps, both of them are traff.
Bwipin might be wrong, or even deliberately deceptive. Even if he brought it up deadpan, he may have been fishing for a reaction all along.
In other words - talk to Thenel. I would suggest being up front - say that you've been told he has an existing relationship of some formality, and want to know how it relates to you. If he starts to deny, I would further suggest making sure that he's aware that, so long as his alleged partner is aware and accepting of his forays, it's not the end of the world; but if he insists that there's nothing going on, accept the possibility that he might be telling the truth.
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Date: 2009-10-09 06:20 pm (UTC)At any rate... I'm sure you're sick of hearing it from us by now, but, really, for some people sexuality isn't so polarized. Or is polarized along different axes than most expect.
Beyond that - yes, follow Phaniet's advice; find the truth to their relationship.
It may be a relationship of expedience - especially if, perhaps, both of them are traff.
Bwipin might be wrong, or even deliberately deceptive. Even if he brought it up deadpan, he may have been fishing for a reaction all along.
In other words - talk to Thenel. I would suggest being up front - say that you've been told he has an existing relationship of some formality, and want to know how it relates to you. If he starts to deny, I would further suggest making sure that he's aware that, so long as his alleged partner is aware and accepting of his forays, it's not the end of the world; but if he insists that there's nothing going on, accept the possibility that he might be telling the truth.
Quibble for the translator, though - 'fiancée' (note that the first e, not the second, is accented) applies to females; for a male it'd be 'fiancé'.