Children?

Mirrored from Sythyry.

Do you think you will regret not having a child, given your particular lifestyle, and enjoying the things that Zi-Ri parents typically do with their children?

I am afraid that a summary of basic Zi Ri anatomy and lifecycle is required here.

• Zi Ri live a very very long time. Having a child at my age would be considered silly and inappropriate. [Loosely like Malia Obama, currently about 14 years old, choosing to get pregnant. -bb] Even Saza, several hundred years my senior, is simply of an appropriate age to have a child.

Reproduction and reproductive activities are not recreational. They are very very painful. Given that we live a long time and rarely need replacement, our creator god did not want to encourage us to have lots of children.

Conversely, body-play is entirely different from reproduction. If I wanted a child and was monogamously attached to a prime of another species — and didn’t want to wait a few decades until that attachment was over the sad way — having a child with another Zi Ri could not be considered a violation of even the strictest monogamy vows.

A substantial number of traff-folk have children. My wife Arfaen has a son, Quendry, from her time in a cis-specific marriage. Other traff families, having avoided the trap of prior woeful marriage, choose to get assistance from a same-species opposite-sex friend or professional. What we traff-folk do not do, which same-species cross-gender marriages occasionally do, is to accidentally have children. (Yes, yes, there are exceptions, but never mind that.)

In any case, I don’t want to think about children for another century or two at least. I happen to know Saza’s opinion of the matter as well: zie is not eager for children either, nor does zie consider zirself capable of being an adequate parent. Few Zi Ri would disagree.

Children?

Mirrored from Sythyry.

Do you think you will regret not having a child, given your particular lifestyle, and enjoying the things that Zi-Ri parents typically do with their children?

I am afraid that a summary of basic Zi Ri anatomy and lifecycle is required here.

• Zi Ri live a very very long time. Having a child at my age would be considered silly and inappropriate. [Loosely like Malia Obama, currently about 14 years old, choosing to get pregnant. -bb] Even Saza, several hundred years my senior, is simply of an appropriate age to have a child.

Reproduction and reproductive activities are not recreational. They are very very painful. Given that we live a long time and rarely need replacement, our creator god did not want to encourage us to have lots of children.

Conversely, body-play is entirely different from reproduction. If I wanted a child and was monogamously attached to a prime of another species — and didn’t want to wait a few decades until that attachment was over the sad way — having a child with another Zi Ri could not be considered a violation of even the strictest monogamy vows.

A substantial number of traff-folk have children. My wife Arfaen has a son, Quendry, from her time in a cis-specific marriage. Other traff families, having avoided the trap of prior woeful marriage, choose to get assistance from a same-species opposite-sex friend or professional. What we traff-folk do not do, which same-species cross-gender marriages occasionally do, is to accidentally have children. (Yes, yes, there are exceptions, but never mind that.)

In any case, I don’t want to think about children for another century or two at least. I happen to know Saza’s opinion of the matter as well: zie is not eager for children either, nor does zie consider zirself capable of being an adequate parent. Few Zi Ri would disagree.